Grief


Mack’s Story on WBUR’s Only a Game

We are so grateful for the wonderful and sensitive retelling of Mack’s story and how soccer has been a part of our joy and healing. Bill Littlefield, Karen Given, and Alexander Schroeder were wonderful to work with and Bill, as always, provided his warmth to the story. It is a […]


Come forth and live 3

A reflection on Holy Saturday It is Holy Saturday, the gap between death and resurrection, the gap in which those of us who have lost loved ones live. I have been reading this morning of other mothers who have survived, literally “live beyond” the deaths of their own children. Women like Jennifer […]


Celtics Share about Mack

Last night we had the great blessing of four of Mack’s friends participating in “State of the Story.” This particular night was part of our “Learning to Live” initiative and the Ryan, Mike, Quinn, and Colin shared their memories of Mack. They were kind enough to also allow me to […]


“Sit Still and Uncover Your Eyes” 1

My latest essay “Sit Still and Uncover Your Eyes” was posted today on Modern Loss, a website dedicated to “candid conversations about grief.” Modern Loss was included in a New York Time’s piece “An online generation redefines mourning’’ by Hannah Seligson that reflects on the new era of public grief via […]


Survive – Living Beyond Adversity

This is the lecture I gave for the 20th Annual Mark Luchinsky Lecture in the Schreyer Honors College, Penn State University. The video is below, but here are my scripted remarks, I departed occasionally from them, but the core concepts are here. From the opening remarks: Tonight we recognize the anniversary of […]


Mack Thumbs Up

How do we celebrate? 2

One of the delicate balances of our new life is celebrating Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, first and last days of school, birthdays, Easter, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Groundhog Day…you get the picture, the list of celebrations is endless…how do we celebrate life with Izzy and honor Mack as an important and […]


Holy Saturday, the ‘death of God’ 1

This Lent I have been using the Magnificat app on my phone. I appreciated this reflection from Pope Benedict XVI: Holy Saturday is the day of the ‘death of God,’ the day which expresses the unparalleled experience of our age, anticipating the fact that God is simply absent, that the […]


Darth for Mack

Valentine’s Day 1

“Something quite unexpected has happened. It came this morning early. For various reasons, not in themselves at all mysterious, my heart was lighter than it had been for many weeks…And, suddenly, at the moment when, so far, I mourned H. least, I remembered her best. Indeed it was something (almost) […]